Self-destruct

Yeah, I know the title sounds like it was lifted from some high-tech robotic flick, like 'I-robot', starring Will Smith. But, no, I'm not referring to a machine, I'm referring to that
aspect of human nature, that puts self-destructive negativity consistently into our thoughts. If you are someone who is in absolute control of your thoughts and how it affects you, then you need to stop reading here, if you aren't, please continue by all means.
Usually, our thoughts are emanated from our subconscious, at other times, our conscious; as much as there are individual differences, there exists various stereotypes, and this to some extent is responsible for our actions and reactions to circumstances or life in general.

I don't want to go into classifying stereotypes, but, if you find yourself doing some or all of the following, maybe your onto self-destructive mode:
=> You find yourself dwelling more in thoughts of the past rather than your present surroundings.
=> You pass by a group of people chuckling and sharing a joke, and for some reason, you feel you are the topic of discussion.
=> You keep having a nagging feeling that you aren't good enough, aren't pretty enough, aren't smart enough...sometimes, we think the opposite, but, we feel like those talents should rather be bottled up and buried six feet under, we fear the unknown, who doesn't? But, would you rather grow old, without ever getting to know what could have been, if you just let you be 'you'?
At this juncture, i want to chip in a quote, though i can't quite remember whose it is, but it goes thus;
"We are often consumed by fear of what we can do, we ask ourselves questions like,'Who are we to be smart, beautiful, successful...?' But, the real question is,'WHO ARE WE NOT TO?' "

Some people have been dealt a really hard blow from life. There are victims of abuse, of rape, of bullying, even of heartbreak, i know almost everyone can relate to that. So, how do we make that transition from self-destruct mode to one that gives you a zest for life? Here, are a few simple steps:
=> Try to look on the bright side of everything. It's true that everything happens for reason. Can you find a silver lining in your dark cloud and focus on it?
=> The best way to overcome pain is to feel it. Let yourself go through whatever hurt you feel, give yourself time, eventually you will not only feel better, but stronger too.
=> Spend time with close friends and family, or go see a comedy flick, laugh your heart out and just breathe.
=> Take time to really get to know yourself and get to love yourself, you can't show love if you don't love you first.
=> If all these don't seem to help, by all means, see a psychologist, there's nothing demeaning about getting help for yourself.
=> Above all, seek to have a deeper relationship with your maker. Spirituality could give you insight to what you couldn't understand before. I hope this helps someone out there, you are not alone.